My mother-in-law always calls my husband to meet her at their family home and tell him rumours about me as if she wants my husband to divorce me. My husband always laughs about it when he tells me and he has not believed any of those lies. I worry that one day she will say something that will break my marriage. I am thinking of confronting her. She does all the duties I am supposed to be doing when she visits over or when l visit. – Jamy
Dear Jamy
Confrontations between mother and daughter-in-law usually turn nasty. You do not want to spoil the good relationship you have with your husband by doing that. If she is on some kind of protest against you, it is good for you it does not seem to be catching your husband’s eye.
Talking to your husband about how you feel about his mother’s attitude towards you is not a bad idea. But do not expect too much from him.
This is his mother we are talking about; the woman who gave birth to him and raised him to be the man he is today. It is not easy for him to accept that she is wrong and that you are right. But this is not about who is wrong or right.
There is need for two women to accept each other in their lives and understand that neither of them is the only one important in this man’s life.
You will not lose anything when your mother-in-law does all your duties in some form of “sabotage.” Back off and give the drama queen some floor to perform. Just remember to pick it up when she is done or tired. I promise you she will. If what you do is not good enough for her and she wants to do it herself take that as a blessing rather. Don’t show that it affects you in a way, just show some appreciation that she is doing what you could have been doing as the daughter-in-law. Once she realises that she is fighting a lone battle she will give up.
Concentrate on making your husband happy and strengthening your marriage. – Aunty Lisa
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