I love my boyfriend and he loves me too. He is however someone who seems to love me to the extent of idolizing me. I have a senior position at work and he is kind of my junior. I know it is rude to say he is obsessed by me, but that is exactly what it seems like. I love being admired by my boyfriend, I really do. But when the admiration becomes this much it is a problem.
He treats me like I know everything in this relationship, why does he always have to attend to everything I say. I hate it when my man makes me wear the pants and become a yes man. I want my man tough. He should be someone I know I can ask for his opinion without him asking me what I think first and then agreeing. The guy is very nice Gracey, I don’t want to leave him. But how can I get him to understand that he is the man here? – BossLady
Dear BossLady
Well it is obvious your man is suffering from an inferiority complex. He knows you are his senior and he probably knows that you know more than he does. The best way to help him is by avoiding talking about work outside working hours.
Give him the respect that will encourage him to feel more like a man. Try to make him feel like the boss in this relationship. Show him some appreciation, be curious to learn things from him, spend time with him playing or watching his favourite game and show that you admire his knowledge of other things.
It will not be a healthy relationship having him as your yes man at work and alsoin your relationship. When you ask him for his idea, say this to him “sweetie I need your honest opinion about something” and make sure when you ask you don’t hint to him what you personally think. When he gives you his honest opinion make sure you don’t make the blunder of trying to convince him to change his mind and agree with what you think. Doing that will plainly say to him “I just wanted to know your level of thinking, otherwise I know these things.”
Sometimes it is how we women behave or treat our men that they end up behaving the way they do. Respect his decisions and opinion when you ask for them. He will know that he is of great value in your life and we all know it feels good to know that someone thinks we have a special role to play in their lives. – Gracey
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